Boundaries: Dating/Love all that shit.

Hey everyone! I wanted to take a moment and talk about my personal boundaries that I’m starting to cultivate for myself going forward. As you know my previous relationship was an abusive one and I have a lot of trauma from that. So with that comes maybe stricter boundaries. And I’m not going to apologize for that. I shouldn’t have to. I deserve to have boundaries. So here are the one’s I’ve decided to cultivate so far. I’m sure I will add to over time.

  1. I would NEVER feel comfortable with my partner talking to another girl alone. I really want to honor that we all have different friend needs and tastes and personalities. I would prefer we all hung out, or texted in a group text. I would never text another guy or girl alone either. (I’m bi sexual) I would even go as far as to check phones and be extremely transparent. I would never want to hurt my partner. If that’s to extreme for a person then it’s not meant to be.
  2. I would also feel uncomfortable with following lots of females on social media. That’s a huge red flag for me.
  3. I’m not into open relationships, while I honor those who want that! I really support those who do. I just know personally I can’t handle that. I would get really insecure and feel almost not good enough.
  4. I would need constant reassurance and that is something I’m working on. But I do need that right now and lots of affection. I’m not going to apologize for that.
  5. Please don’t lie to me, abuse me, gaslight me, hurt me or anything like that. I realize hurts might accidentally happen but please try your best.

There are more boundaries I have but I wanted to share these so far!

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